The Path of Reconciliation by Jennifer Hoffman

I really like Jennifer’s work – This is her message for November 2009:

If we could see of our lifetimes they would not look like a continuous path moving forward. Instead, they would resemble a twisted path which curved back on itself multiple times and it would often seem like there was no forward movement. This is because many of our lifetimes have no forward movement as we are trying to fix what we believe was broken, incomplete, unfinished or unresolved in the past. Most of our lifetimes have this focus, which is why it has taken us so long to arrive at the point where ascension was an option. Before we can move ahead into the future we must resolve the past through the path of reconciliation. But not necessarily by going backwards into it. We can reconcile by moving forwards by changing our mindset about reconciliation.

We feel the same way about lifetimes that end tragically or sadly, with unresolved issues or pain that we do in this lifetime when someone betrays us and we do not know why. When our heart and soul are wounded or we are so angry or bitter about an unresolved event, we want justice and closure. So we reconstruct that lifetime’s details to allow us to create a different outcome. But as we know, that does not always happen. Too often we become mired in the same emotions and pain that we experienced the first time around. And so we are on the path of reconciliation, trying again and again for closure and release by trying to undo the past.

This is the “old” way of doing things, which is why we have had so many lifetimes where we repeat lessons and get stuck within our soul group dynamics. And there is a little twist to this story because not only do we try to make different choices within the energy dynamic, we also give the other participants a chance to make other choices too. The phrase “turn the other cheek” is taken very literally here where instead of turning the other cheek and walking away, we give them an opportunity to wound us again, which they very often do.

Each time we repeat this process we become more wounded until we are disillusioned, believing that it is our destiny to carry the burden of pain because we cannot find our way out of it. This is where our life path stops moving forward and appears to double back on itself. If we could see the energy we would see that it doubles back to the same lifetime, energy or experience, again and again, as we try to resolve it by going back to it. Our life path is stuck in an endless loop of seeking resolution, reconciliation and truth through repeating the situation until we get a different outcome.

But because the energy is the same, the outcome will always be the same. And because the soul group is the same, the vibration is also the same. We do not understand that we cannot find reconciliation within these dynamics until we change something within ourselves. And that what we are really looking for is reconciliation about our feelings of separation and disconnection. We want the world and everyone in it to love us so we can believe that we are loved by God. Then we can make sense of our long journey away from and back to our Home.

There is relief available to us but it comes at the price of acceptance and forgiveness. Accepting that our past is our creation and represents the lessons we need to learn. That no matter how many times we offer someone the chance to change, as long as they do not see the need for it or are not willing to do it, they will continue to act as they always have. Our reconciliation with our pain cannot depend on another’s actions. It is our desire to reconcile our feelings about the past that creates the need to repeat it. Yet without a new energy or vibration, the release of our expectations of others and forgiveness, we will never find peace.

This is something we stubbornly resist because we are so afraid of rejection by our Source that we cannot go to Source for the answer. So we ask others to be stand-ins, to take the place of the one whose love we cannot risk losing. And we ask them to show us the unconditional love we believe we have lost and want proof of. And the irony is that it can never be lost and is something that can never be taken away from us. Our need to reconcile with them is our need to reconcile with our Self. Every wrong, no matter how small, is a source of pain that we want to re-visit to “get it right,” pretend that it did not happen, that the person did not mean it. Yet, like the Frog and Scorpion in the fable, that is their dharma, it is what they do. And that is what they will always do, in every situation. Can we see that we are the ones who need to change? Not until we learn to stop asking our human family to show us what it needs to learn from us, love, detachment, non-judgment, and unconditional love.

Our victim paradigm, which fuels our need for recapturing our power through repeating life challenges, is another aspect we need to consider. Are we a victim of someone’s behavior or our own expectations? How often do we deliberately create opportunities for others to help us resolve our victim experiences, allowing them to show us that they really didn’t mean it? And then we find that it is not by setting ourselves up as a victim and expecting someone to see us as powerful that we heal this aspect, it is by becoming powerful and refusing to be victimized.

With this we come to forgiveness as another form of relief from the painful healing cycles of reconciliation. Can we forgive ourselves when we realize that our pain and suffering exist because we created them? When we accept responsibility for our reality, we realize that we are our source of pain, which others mirror to us. We forgive them for their actions and with that must also forgive ourselves for inviting them and their energy into our reality.

So the reconciliation we seek is not so much with others, but with ourselves. We need to reconcile ourselves with our power and divinity, not through our endless search for it in the world by but finding it within. Although our search takes us far and wide, we are always brought back to ourselves, to the inner source where everything we have ever wanted and needed, waits for us to acknowledge it. We are worthy of the love we so desperately want to find in the world. It is a love we take for granted because it is always within, a steady, bright light that shines even though we sometimes close our eyes tightly so we do not have to look at it. We are the love we have been seeking, the gift we hope we would be worthy of receiving and the light that we have sought in others. The path of reconciliation is one we will pursue until we acknowledge that its resolution lies within us. And then we will be home and connected to ourselves, which then allows us to be connected to, loved and valued by everyone.

About the Author

Jennifer Hoffman is an intuitive, spiritual healer, mentor, teacher and author and  channels the energy of the Archangel Uriel. Jennifer’s intuitive abilities go beyond psychic and into the realm of soul level communication, accessing a client’s soul’s desire for peace, joy and unconditional love. She is able to view the soul’s lifetime purpose, identify the soul contract, describe blocks, karmic imprints, negative patterning, messages and images and facilitate the ascension into the miracle vibration, where life becomes an effortless flow of joy and fulfillment. Her ability to view the dynamics of the soul’s journey allows her clients insights into how to achieve their highest possible vibration, miracle mastery. Everything that stands in the way of this goal can be transformed with willingness to change one’s life story from victim consciousness to spiritual mastery.

In her readings, Jennifer works with the Archangel Uriel, angels, guides and departed loved ones to help her clients gain clarity about  their life purpose. Jennifer has helped many people through the Shift through her unique insights and counsel, facilitating their healing journey. Jennifer is the founder of www.urielheals.com, an on-line spiritual healing and growth center and dedicated to the messages and teachings of Archangel Uriel.  Information about Jennifer’s books, on-line seminars and services is available at her websites, or email healing@urielheals.com for information.

 

The Fable of the Frog and the Scorpion

One day, a scorpion looked around at the mountain where he lived and decided that he wanted a change. So he set out on a journey through the forests and hills. He climbed over rocks and under vines and kept going until he reached a river.

The river was wide and swift, and the scorpion stopped to reconsider the situation. He couldn’t see any way across. So he ran upriver and then checked downriver, all the while thinking that he might have to turn back.

Suddenly, he saw a frog sitting in the rushes by the bank of the stream on the other side of the river. He decided to ask the frog for help getting across the stream.

“Hellooo Mr. Frog!” called the scorpion across the water, “Would you be so kind as to give me a ride on your back across the river?”

“Well now, Mr. Scorpion! How do I know that if I try to help you, you won’t try to kill me?” asked the frog hesitantly.

“Because,” the scorpion replied, “If I try to kill you, then I would die too, for you see I cannot swim!”

Now this seemed to make sense to the frog. But he asked. “What about when I get close to the bank? You could still try to kill me and get back to the shore!”

“This is true,” agreed the scorpion, “But then I wouldn’t be able to get to the other side of the river!”

“Alright then…how do I know you won’t just wait till we get to the other side and THEN kill me?” said the frog.

“Ahh…,” crooned the scorpion, “Because you see, once you’ve taken me to the other side of this river, I will be so grateful for your help, that it would hardly be fair to reward you with death, now would it?!”

So the frog agreed to take the scorpion across the river. He swam over to the bank and settled himself near the mud to pick up his passenger. The scorpion crawled onto the frog’s back, his sharp claws prickling into the frog’s soft hide, and the frog slid into the river. The muddy water swirled around them, but the frog stayed near the surface so the scorpion would not drown. He kicked strongly through the first half of the stream, his flippers paddling wildly against the current.

The frog felt a sharp sting and knew that the scorpion had stung him. “Why did you do that?” he said, if you sting me we will both drown. “Oh,” said the scorpion. “I’m so sorry, but I can’t help myself as it is my nature. I won’t do it again.” So the frog continued to swim and a few minutes later the frog felt another sting on his back. “Scorpion,” he said, “if you sting me I will not be able to carry you across the river and we will both drown.”

“I didn’t mean to do it,” said the scorpion.” “It’s my nature but it won’t happen again.”

They were nearly across the river when the frog felt a third sharp sting in his back and, out of the corner of his eye, saw the scorpion remove his stinger from the frog’s back. A deadening numbness began to creep into his limbs.

“You fool!” croaked the frog, “Now we shall both die! Why did you do that when you said you would not do it again?”

The scorpion shrugged, and did a little jig on the drowning frog’s back.

“I could not help myself. It is my nature.” Then they both sank into the muddy waters of the swiftly flowing river.

Source unknown but often attributed to Aesop